their job vs our responsibility

Whenever we are attending a family reunion, it's our 'responsibility' to go and greet the elders. And when they see us, it's also their 'job' to say something about us. And i think the most common ones will be :

1) Waa .. you are all grown up and more matured now. ( in another word, you look OLD ! )
哇！你越來越成熟穩重了。

2) Waa .. you look so healthy and prosperous now. ( in another word, you look FAT ! )
哇！你越來越有福相了。

Which one is SCARIER?
I DEFINITELY prefer then to tell me the 1st line lorr... cos i know i will grow old vogiuly. But being FAT is just not what i want to do. ;p


p/s : i think i know what is the scariest comment :

" Waaa. you are all grown up and prosperous now. " lol ;p